Mother’s Day Rendezvous #2

Celebrating motherhood

As promised, this time around, I sit down with another beautiful human being for a virtual coffee date to chat about motherhood as we delve into the journey of a remarkable woman who has embraced motherhood with grace and resilience. Her story reflects the profound connections, challenges, and joys that come with nurturing a family while navigating a career and personal growth. Read on for Marisa’s insights and experiences on motherhood.

Journey into Motherhood

Q – Can you share a bit about your journey into motherhood?

Marisa – Motherhood for me is something I always knew I wanted and would be a gift to me if I was lucky enough to have a child one day. I had my first (of three children) at the age of 32 – he is now 16. During my venture into motherhood, I was lucky enough to be surrounded by beautiful women many of which are still art of my life now. My mothers group formed for our first babies still has regular dinners 16 years. The first lot of “preschool mums” I met through the school are also dear friends that I spend time with 12 years on. We share our stories (and some horror stories) of parenthood and raising our children, have a good laugh, and provide advice and encouragement. We all face our differing challenges and support each other in a non-judgmental way whilst ensuring we also have lots of fun together.

Some of my strongest and deepest friendships have been built through the connections I have made by being a mother. My own mother and grandmothers are very independent, and they taught me a lot about kindness, patience, personal growth and love whilst holding onto my identity and as I move through motherhood.

Significance of Mother’s Day

Q – What does Mother’s Day mean to you personally?

Marisa – I love Mother’s Day. For me it means reflecting on the amazing women around who have all had their own personal journey around motherhood be it choosing to become a mother or not. I really enjoy observing what the day means to my own children. Being 10, 14 and 16 they each have their own sweet little way of acknowledging my role in their lives and showing their love.

It’s not about the chocolates and purchases that are important to me but more so their incredibly special little handmade cards – which are something I will always treasure. Even the crazy cute breakfasts they prepare of chopped up banana heavily loaded with peanut butter and sprinkles brought to me on a tray in bed – that’s what is special.

Juggling careers and motherhood

Q – Balancing motherhood with a full-time career can be challenging. Could you provide some insights or strategies you’ve found helpful in managing this juggling act effectively?

Marisa – I’m still learning about balance 16 years on, and parenting is definitely a juggling act. All kids are unique and each need to be carefully nurtured to meet their individual needs. Something that works for one child might not work for another.

What I’ve discovered recently is that I need to relax into the role of being a mother and try not to put too much pressure on myself to be perfect – I just do the best I can day in and out. If I have a bad day, I reset and do better the next day.

In terms of managing the juggle, we each have our own responsibilities in the house and an annual calendar that allows us to see the whole year at a time. That helps keep us on track and not miss the many different activities we have on.

Self-care

Q – How do you prioritize self-care amidst the demands of work and family? And do you have any advice for other mothers who might struggle to make time for themselves?

Marisa – Prioritizing self-care is so essential yet challenging. It’s vital so that I don’t lose sight of who I am as a person and so that my needs are met. I think it’s great to meld into family mode and mother mode, but my health and happiness is critical to maintain happiness and balance in the home. If possible, I’ll get out for a walk a few times a week and add the social element to it by walking with a friend. We are never short of anything to talk about, and I get the walk and social ticked off at the same time! It’s just a matter of allowing myself to drop everything and pushing myself out the door.

Leaving a legacy

Q – As an Engagement Lead, you’re accustomed to facilitating connections and fostering teamwork. How do you apply these skills in your family life, particularly in nurturing relationships with your children and maintaining a supportive environment at home?

Marisa – Similarly to my work, I have always sought connections. My family, friends, school and community are key connections for me and the children. I present them new experiences when I can and love watching them grow through social interactions and try new things.

A few years ago, the kids and I took 12 weeks out of school and adventured through Europe – Italy, Belgium, France, UK and Spain. We met my Spanish family there and experienced new cultures and ways of life. I enjoy giving my children the opportunities for personal growth and for them to build resilience through new experiences. Nothing beats seeing someone you love to have an exciting new experience that becomes a core memory and shapes who they are.

As we wrap up this Mother’s Day Rendezvous Part 2, I must say, even though May has come and gone, I’m still soaking up these incredible stories from the amazing mums around me. Hearing about the ups and downs, the joys and chaos of balancing careers with the whirlwind of motherhood has been a real eye-opener. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone in this juggling act, and it’s truly inspiring to see the creative ways we all find to overcome our challenges. Here’s to all the mums out there, finding their own unique ways to make it all work! Cheers to you!